As I've written before, Luke and I really haven't made many friends here in West Virginia yet. Of course I have a lot of great coworkers that I get along with, and Luke has several friends from school, but we haven't acquired any couple friends that are like-minded quite yet. It's hard being friends with people that are in different stages of life. We live in a college town filled with college-type people. You know the kind. I used to be there. I used to like to go out, but now, all I want is a group of friends we can play board games with. Friends we can invite over for dinner and great conversation.
This book talks a lot about breaking the ice too, and reminds us not to be afraid to invite friends over because of the fear of rejection. Let's be honest, we all fear rejection and judgement, but we could lose the opportunity to make great friends if we let that fear run our lives. As part of my goals for the new year, I really want to break the ice with some people in my life right now. There are several people that I work with that I could see being friends with outside of the workplace (and even a few couples that are a little more like-minded as us), but the initial invitation is what always makes me nervous. Does anyone else feel like this?
This is a fear that I hope to get over soon. Friends are very important, and when your lifelong friends live 1000 miles away life can be hard.
On, an entirely different note, here's a juice recipe that I tried earlier this week straight out of the juicer handbook. I'd definitely suggest it to those who are first-time green juice drinkers. The flavor is fabulous!
xo, eden
I love the honesty in this post. I felt the same way when I moved to my current location, except that my hubby had established friendships and relationships and I had to create my own. It gets easier, I promise!
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Glad to know I'm not the only one! And so good to hear that it gets easier. :) Thanks for reading along with me, and for the many sweet comments you leave. You're the best! xo
DeleteI loved this book! So glad you're reading it. Jump in! You'll be blown away at how easy it will become. And what great friendships you will create. Love ya! Miss ya!
ReplyDeleteThat looks like a good book with lots of useful advices. I'm always intrigued by stuff like that :). And thanks for the recipe, I'll sure try it out!
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I am in the exact same stage. Too bad we don't live in the same city, we could be friends and have games nights together! :(
ReplyDeleteTim and I are also in that stage of life. With a little one, it also becomes a question of couples with kids vs couples without kids ... ::sigh:: Making friends can be exhausting!
ReplyDeleteI am going to have to pick up this book, though. :)
this is such an encouraging post re: hospitality. thanks so much for your honesty. i've been blessed to be in the so many homes that have been open, warm, and inviting. i hardly ever noticed the "imperfections," because i was always encouraged by the love and warm gestures people extended toward me, which now provide a model for how i hope our home to be towards others. i hope you find those lovely people soon, with whom to have dinner parties, game nights, and amazing conversations :)
ReplyDeleteSo true! I now exactly what you mean about living 1000 miles away from your close friends and people you love! but I think it is a challenge to be accepted to find a way to break the ice, as you said, and form new realationships.. Good luck :) xx
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Yes, it can be so hard to make friends in new places. I was forced waaaay out of my comfort zone in my early twenties because of my husband's job and I already had a baby as we moved everywhere, so it was a matter of talking to people or feeling entirely on my own. I guess it gets a bit easier because now (a dozen years later) I probably talk too much! ;-)
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